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Please advise me. I have found out that my 18 year old daughter was raped by a stranger about six months ago while abroad with friends. One of them has told my 18 year old's older sister, who has now told me. I want to be able to tell her that I'm here to support her and help her, but I don't know how to approach it as she obviously doesn't want to tell me. The friends were sworn to secrecy, as was her sister (who has tried to talk to her about it but was rebuffed). How should I handle it? Hello, this is such a difficult situation because I understand you are also trying to protect your other daughter and her friends confidentiality. I think you are the only person that can make this decision. I think you have to weigh up breaking the confidentiality of the others versus your daughters wellbeing. I think often young people want to keep it from their parents for a host of reasons, such as not being believed or feeling that they want to protect their parents, or that they may be angry. They may want to try and forget it and pretend it didn't happen. If you do confide in her she will need your understanding and support and she may well not want to talk, which ,as hard as it is you will have to respect. Depending on your relationship with her and also your other daughter it may be something you could do together. Ultimately it is your decision and I wish you and your daughter well.
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Asked on December 4, 2017 4:42 pm

Hello, this is such a difficult situation because I understand you are also trying to protect your other daughter and her friends confidentiality. I think you are the only person that can make this decision. I think you have to weigh up breaking the confidentiality of the others versus your daughters wellbeing. I think often young people want to keep it from their parents for a host of reasons, such as not being believed or feeling that they want to protect their parents, or that they may be angry. They may want to try and forget it and pretend it didn’t happen. If you do confide in her she will need your understanding and support and she may well not want to talk, which ,as hard as it is you will have to respect. Depending on your relationship with her and also your other daughter it may be something you could do together. Ultimately it is your decision and I wish you and your daughter well.

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Answered On December 4, 2017 4:45 pm